Have you tried to build a relationship that seems to be good enough for your partner? I watched it at least once a week in practice. He/she will come in and talk about how they feel exhausted from the constant giving and never get any return. To make matters worse, their social circles are almost non-existent now because they try to make their partners happy. I told them that they are the right relationship, just with the wrong person.
How did this happen? We take a person who is ready to settle down and commit to a higher level in the relationship. Then they pick someone who doesn't want to return. Ok, but what is going on? Often, a narrow-minded person will overcompensate just to build relationships. The sad truth is that women are more than men. When they didn't get the attention and/or love they expected, everyone soon became a dog. They are sitting in my office, broken, angry, tired.
This is a key point in evolution, or the beginning of a decline in the way they think about future relationships. Either they are emotionally different [assuming they are in a heterosexual relationship] or decide to make a better choice in the future. We have all heard the same principle of "Why can you buy cows when you get milk for free?" If you don't get your love, don't give up on your love.
I believe that so many of us are willing to do anything to avoid being alone. But the real crisis begins when you are in an unhealthy relationship and feel lonely. Having said that, improve your criteria for finding acceptable behavior in your relationship. Ok, how do you do that? We must train ourselves to feel uncomfortable. The good news is that this process does not take a long time.
You start to pass events or hang out with people just to have something to do. If you are not a big alcoholic, but you spent the weekend at the bar, guess what? The feeling of realization will be far different. On the other hand, if you do more things in the cab although alone, you will start to see the difference in your way of thinking. Of course, at first you will miss a company that another person shares with others. However, the days when you feel unrespected, not heard or simply consumed are gone. If you stick to it, you will soon discover that you will not tolerate getting along with people and in an environment that makes you feel uncomfortable.
The beauty of this exercise is that you will read yourself better. By doing this, you can quickly identify who will take it or increase the value of your life. I am not talking about everyday life in your life. I am talking about people you spend every day with a loyal relationship. There will be some people, and we all have to endure who is the capital of energy. However, the person you work with should not be one of them under any circumstances. Yes, sometimes your partner will pull you. However, if you have fully invested in this exercise, your partner will be rare.
So if you find yourself in a relationship that you only give. Maybe it's time to try this exercise. Because at the end of the day, no one is willing to establish the right relationship with the wrong person.Modern Love - Dating And Relationship / Get Your Ex Back (view mobile),Click here! 1000 Questions For Couples By Michael Webb Relationship Expert,Click here!