There are times when we have no choice but to deal with serious conflict situations. There may be several reasons why we find ourselves facing a stress problem that cannot be ignored or abandoned. There may be a major disagreement, an act that is considered wrong, or that we feel vulnerable and react in a particularly sensitive or vulnerable way in emotional communication. Whatever the reason, it can lead to very tight times.
Feelings can be high, because things that are usually negligible or barely noticed find themselves added to our mental checklist and become another cause of trouble. So we will find ourselves getting more and more angry, hurt, disappointed and stressed. Looking at the causes of conflicts and exploring real potential problems might be useful?
When to handle tips for pressure conflicts;
– First list your dissatisfactionfrom
. Initially, we might want to list a lot of examples, and when we pause reflection, these examples are not as confusing as originally thought. They can be attributed to one or two key projects, which helps to identify real potential problems. Often felt neglected, disrespected, not listened to, and is taken for granted on many lists.
– The possible aspects of the situation depend on youfrom
? Maybe someone has taken your nose off the joint, your self is hurt or there is a real comment that you need to consider. Maybe you do have a good reason to feel wronged. But usually, half of the list is relatively insignificant, or an extension of a larger core issue.
– Sympathize and try to see each other's point of view. from
They are not a bad person, which is why you first get along with them. Therefore, they are likely to be happy because of evil or viciousness. Is it worthwhile to go through what happened and discuss with family and friends to get a third-party perspective? In doing so, it's important to keep the facts as much as possible, because you outline your experience of the problem.
– Choose your objection point, from
When you decide to resolve a conflict, you feel the need to ask something very important. Keeping the details as simple and simple as possible is essential to control stress by controlling emotions. Otherwise, in a large number of claims, counterclaims, reasons and excuses, the discussion may be lost. Be prepared to listen to some of the tough truths about yourself; after all, another person has his own opinion of you and your role in the conflict.
– Identify the location you choose, from
The place you are going to meet. A neutral place can reduce stress and help you better control yourself. For example, some people are reluctant to discuss controversial issues at home or at work. Advise on the time and place that is best for you when discussing a problem. Public places may be good because others around you can ensure a more restrained conversation. Sometimes it may be good to introduce a third-party referee who will ask questions and keep the discussion on track.
– Commitment to truly listen from
Just as the other person speaks. Prove that you are listening through positive body language, reflecting what is said and keeping your general behavior interested and alert. For your level of uneasiness, they may be completely in a dark state, not knowing what you are talking about. They may think of the whole thing as a storm in the teacup. Think about how you would react if you got this response. May you be overly sensitive, or may you be nervous about your symptoms? Is the other party difficult or thick?
– When you are dissatisfied, it is important to try to understand the whole picture. from
As a relationship consultant, I am often amazed at how two people restate the exact same facts, but there are two completely different interpretations of what happened and how they affect them. Listen to what the other person has to interrupt or guess, and try to really understand why they feel what they are doing.
– Decide what will be good for you from the start. from
Do you want to cure this relationship or have it stopped working for you now, can you end it completely? Do you need to meet in a social setting, or do you have to continue to work together because of business or family relationships? On those occasions, can you be polite and kind? Consider the best, most effective results for you and how to achieve them.
The pressure to decide to deal with conflicts is often much less than letting it slowly disappear, creating an unpleasant undercurrent. Conflicts rarely disappear on their own. By pre-determining what you want and need to solve the problem helps you feel clearer, more controllable and able to achieve the most positive results for all involved.